Relationship Counseling in San Diego

You want to feel close but something keeps getting in the way. Let’s understand the pattern and begin to heal it.

Why Attachment Matters in Relationships

When you've experienced childhood trauma, emotionally immature caregivers, or past relationship wounds, it's common to struggle with trust, closeness, or emotional safety as an adult.

You might find yourself shutting down during conflict, feeling anxious or clingy, or replaying painful dynamics you don’t fully understand. These patterns aren’t about what’s wrong with you—they’re rooted in your attachment system and shaped by what you've been through.

How Attachment-Based Couples Therapy Can Help

My work with couples goes beyond surface-level communication tools. We’ll explore:

  • The deeper attachment needs behind your reactions

  • The protective parts that show up during conflict or disconnection

  • How early experiences may be showing up in your relationship

  • New ways to feel seen, heard, and emotionally safe with one another

Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or navigating a turning point, therapy can help you create more clarity, connection, and trust.

Individual Attachment Work

You don’t need a partner to do attachment healing. I support individuals in understanding:

  • Anxious or avoidant attachment patterns

  • Fear of intimacy or abandonment

  • People-pleasing or over-functioning in relationships

  • How to build secure connection from within

When we understand our attachment system, we stop blaming ourselves—and start building relationships that feel mutual, grounded, and safe.

My Approach to Couples & Attachment Therapy

I bring a trauma-informed lens to every relationship session. You’ll never be shamed or blamed—we’ll move slowly, building insight and emotional safety first.

My integrative approach combines:

  • Parts work (IFS) for relational triggers

  • EMDR for couples (when helpful)

  • Attachment theory and nervous system awareness

  • Real-life tools to help you repair after conflict and strengthen your bond

Start Couples or Attachment Therapy in California

You don’t have to keep having the same arguments, or feel alone in your relationship. Whether you come in together or start solo, this work can help you shift your patterns and reconnect.

Get started with Holistic Flow Therapy today.

Book a free 15 minute phone call!