Relationship Counseling San Diego
Healing Relationships Through Attachment and Connection
You love each other, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Over time, small arguments pile up, big conflicts leave scars, or old wounds get triggered, and suddenly the connection that once felt effortless feels strained.
Through relationship counseling in San Diego, I help couples move past reactive cycles and into healthier patterns so you can feel more secure, understood, and connected in your relationship.
When Love Feels Harder Than It Should
The honeymoon stage doesn’t last forever. Life stress, deeper commitment, and unresolved wounds often bring new challenges:
Arguments that keep circling back to the same issues
Feeling unheard or misunderstood by your partner
Struggles with trust after a betrayal or broken promise
Cultural, religious, or family differences that create friction
One or both of you shutting down, avoiding conflict, or walking on eggshells
Fear that maybe you’re not “meant to be”
Even when love is strong, these patterns can leave you questioning your future together.
You’re Ready To…
Understand the root of these struggles, not just the surface conflict
Break reactive cycles and communicate with more openness and respect
Feel safe enough to share your perspective without losing yourself
Learn how attachment styles and past wounds are impacting your current patterns
Build healthier boundaries that protect your individuality and strengthen your bond
Rebuild trust and connection so your relationship feels like a safe home again
How Relationship Counseling in San Diego Works
In relationship counseling San Diego, our work goes beyond quick fixes and communication “tips.” Together, we’ll:
Identify patterns: We’ll explore the cycles you keep getting stuck in and how they connect to attachment wounds and nervous system responses.
Process the past: Both of you bring history into the relationship. We’ll look at how old experiences shape your reactions, defenses, and fears.
Rebuild connection: With support, you’ll learn to communicate with curiosity, compassion, and respect—even in conflict.
Create new patterns: You’ll practice ways of showing up differently, so safety and intimacy can grow again.
I integrate attachment-based approaches and IFS for deeper healing when needed, and mindfulness and nervous system tools to keep sessions grounded and safe.
Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Counseling
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Communication tools are important, but they don’t work if underlying wounds and attachment triggers are ignored. In relationship counseling San Diego, we go deeper—addressing the parts of you that shut down, lash out, or avoid closeness, so new skills actually stick.
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Yes, ideally both partners attend, since the relationship itself is the “client.” That said, I sometimes work with individuals on their relationship patterns, especially when their partner isn’t ready for counseling.
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Rebuilding trust after betrayal or hurt is possible, but it takes honesty, accountability, and time. We’ll focus on processing the pain and creating consistent, safe behaviors that allow trust to grow again.
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It depends on your goals and the depth of the issues. Some couples want support with a specific challenge and meet for a few months. Others choose longer-term therapy to work through deeper wounds and strengthen their foundation.
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Not at all. Many couples seek counseling to deepen connection, prevent problems from escalating, or prepare for major life transitions like marriage or parenthood.