Complex & Relational Trauma Therapy in California

Your symptoms are not who you are. They’re responses to what you’ve been through.

Relational and complex trauma often stem from long-term emotional wounds—especially those formed in childhood. At Holistic Flow Therapy, I specialize in trauma therapy that helps you gently process what happened, reconnect with your body, and shift the patterns that are still affecting your relationships and sense of self. I offer trauma-informed, nervous system-centered therapy to clients across California and in-person in La Jolla, San Diego.

What Is Complex or Relational Trauma?

Complex trauma develops over time—often from chronic emotional neglect, inconsistent caregiving, or environments where you didn’t feel safe being fully yourself. It’s not always about one defining moment, but a buildup of experiences that taught your nervous system to stay on guard.

Relational trauma is the emotional impact of unsafe or invalidating relationships, especially with caregivers or partners. These early patterns shape how you see yourself, how you trust, and how you connect with others.

How Trauma Shows Up in Daily Life

You might find yourself:

  • Struggling to trust others—even those close to you

  • Constantly second-guessing yourself or feeling "not enough"

  • Shutting down emotionally or feeling overwhelmed by conflict

  • Caught in people-pleasing, fawning, or perfectionism

  • Longing for connection but afraid of being too much or not safe

These patterns aren't your fault—they're responses your system learned to survive. With the right support, they can begin to shift.

My Approach to Complex Trauma Therapy

Healing complex trauma takes more than just talking about the past. I use a holistic, integrative approach that honors your nervous system and the protective parts of you that helped you cope.

I combine:

  • EMDR therapy to process painful memories without reliving them

  • IFS (Parts Work) to build compassion and trust with the different parts of you

  • Somatic and mindfulness practices to help you feel safe in your body

Together, we go at your pace—building safety, clarity, and resilience from the inside out.

Begin Trauma Therapy in California or San Diego

You deserve to feel safe, connected, and grounded. If you’re ready to begin complex trauma therapy, I’d be honored to walk with you.

Get started with Holistic Flow Therapy today.

Book a free 15 minute phone call!